"People in addictive relationships have the following characteristics."
They:
1. ... feel consumed.
2. ... cannot define ego boundries.
3. ... exhibit sadomasochism. 
4. ... fear letting go.
5. ... fear risk, change, and the unknown.
6. ... experience little individual growth.
7. ... do not experience true intimacy.
8. ... play psychological games.
9. ... give to get something back
10. ... attempt to change the other.
11. ... need the other to feel complete.
12. ... seek solutions outside the self.
13. ... demand and expect unconditional love.
14. ... refuse to commit themselves.
15. ... look to others for affirmation and worth.
16. ... fear abandonment when routinely serperated.
17. ... recreate old, negative feelings.
18. ... desire, yet fear, closeness.
19. ... attempt to take care of others' feelings.
20. ... play power games.

(this a strange early appearance for number 3 - and as for the rest of them - we are all in a whole lotta trouble boys and girls.  addicts are we - and Love Anonymous -  LA -  groups should be as common as carpets.)

more soon -
xoxo,
esa